Monday, March 12, 2012

The Real Foundation Of A Relationship

Been thinking how the blame is always on the EX but never on us. We are quick to call him all sorts of names and put him on blast. In reality when a relationship goes sour it is really the 2 parties and not just one person that is at fault. The question is then what if he is a cheat or a liar? In reality how innocent are we when it comes to cheating all we look at is the sex. Cheating is not only sexual not being 100% real with your partner is cheating also. The question we should ask is what really was the foundation of the relationship.
People say that when you love is the foundation of a relationship but i personally disagree. Love is a seed that is planted and grows more and more each second. The love plants becomes stronger by each trail and victory both parties encounter in life not by material wealth or looks. The real foundation of a relationship isadaptabilityy. The coming together of 2 personality is not going to be a rosy fairy tale affair. There would beargumentt, there would be nights you can not stand each other. There would be talks from friends and community. The truth is for a successful relationship we should accept both weakness andstrengtht. We should go in with patience and understanding. It also comes down to the first meeting in setting the pace knowing what you want and being open about it. We all have what attracts us but does it also keep us in? TheHerculess body drop dead gorgeous guy might be all that physically but there is no personality after the attraction. In our community we complaina lott on how it is hard to find THE ONE but then who is the one we seek? The best is to makeoneselff that person who your Mr. Perfect would want to date. Challenge yourself to look more into personality than sexiness. A great personality would always show physically.

I know many would disagree with me but as earlier stated this thoughts are my own personal view. Been through so much that now I see life differently in a more humble and down to earth manner.  I ran into a guy i have not seen in a long time and when we intially met he was everything our community would classify as not dateable but now things are different for him in every aspect of life.