Monday, September 27, 2010

Dear Amara

I came across an article by a Nigerian journalist on Homosexual Nigerian men and women. I had no other option but to reply her. I am always in a laughing fit each time i read an article on such issues by Africans and the replies cracks me up. well read and enjoy the response.
 Here are the links to the article
http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2010/08/06/men-and-homosexuality/
http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2010/08/10/women-and-lesbianism/
Hi Amara
 I have never read your article but came across it today. I am not surprised by your "article". I would recommend you go back to writing school. It lacked an intro body and a conclusion. it was more like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle no head no tail. That being aside i would like to ask for those whose religion is not your Christian religion do you respect their opinion.
Now let's talk about the issue on same gender relationship. I am a proud gay Nigerian man open about my sexuality and confident in who i am.  This did not come easy for me, to be honest. I have had to deal with people like you all my life. People who are quick to judge and ready to condemn without taking time out to understand, I can boldly tell you that i never choose to be gay okay. I have tried everything from prayer, fasting deliverance and all that and still no change. I have been to all the major churches in Nigeria seen all the pastors and prophets still no change. I hated myself and lived in denial, i hurt myself and attempted suicide and still i am gay. I am a Christian and love god so much that i preach His gospel. The gospel of God is not of hate but of love. It is a gospel filled with joy and peace and not fear and anger. The issue of Sodom and Gomorrah was never homosexuality i would like to see the word in your bible OK. I preach to people and they get saved. I lay hand on the sick and they get ill. I was surprised when u said that Christians do this to get "juju" for miracles. I doubt you are educated from that statement or you bribed your way through college.
A quick question on culture and what is African and UnAfrican. Is Christianity or Islam African? These same western people that you condemn fr Homosexual rise in the world are the ones that brought their religion and imposed it on us. They brought technology, clothes and all that you are wearing and using now as well. You want o dine eating their food drinking their drinks driving their car, yet you say we copy everything they have. I would be damned to see you got out all things westernized in your life and go back to the era before the westerners came to Nigeria. In doing so you would realize that same sex relationship is so African and part of our history and heritage.
I would not be surprised if you have a homosexual child, i wonder if you would kill him/her or love the child.
Homosexual are normal, it is only a perverted mind that would look at the sexual aspect which i guess you are since all you see is sex. There is the emotional attraction involved. I tried dating women but i was not being honest in my relationship to them. I was always looking for that extra something i could not get from them.
 i have never used my sexuality for any monetary or given anyone monetary compensation OK I knew i was sexually attracted to the same sex right from when i was young. I was not scared abused or molested. My father was not absent in my life or anything like that OK I have brothers and sisters who are heterosexual. My happiness is more important to me than trying to live a make believe world. I am glad my family is not expecting any daughter-in-law from me, because ain't none coming to them but a son-in-law.
 Talking about how women hit on you and you run away then i am sure you open up your legs when men hit on you and warm their beds right. in fact this is a waste of time replying your biased article. Go seek knowledge.

1 comment:

AOG said...

Well done for writing a letter to that mad woman. There is so much hate out there. Unfortunately, it has been my experience that those who say they are religious also tend to be very homophobic. I don't understand their message. Jesus loves you...unless you are gay?

Years ago I too was religious and tried, I think, everything you tried to stop being gay. In the end, I realised that religion is a man-made thing, and that it has nothing to do with God (if there is a God). How could it possibly?

I like your blog. Keep writing, I'll keep reading.

All the best,

Ynot