Sexuality and Spirituality Nigerian Gay Experience

African's are living in a religious environment. They claim homosexuality is not an African culture. They blame the Western world for it influence and say we should hold on to our African values. Yet they use Christianity and Islam to judge homosexuals and i ask are those religions African culture?

Sexuality and Spirituality.

http://www.soulforce.org/forums/showthread.php?t=100 The reconciliation between sexuality and Spirituality is one that is usually ignored among the lGBT community. The result for many is to end up in either 2 extremes. The first is that we become victims of Society's religious belief and then castigate ourselvs for who we are. The second is we become villan's to the word Spirituality and denounce it's very exsistence. A few are able to come midway and truly understand that there is a need for an equal balance between sexuality and spiritiuality. These extremes also is more commom in some regions. The frist extreme is popular among bible. religious areas where there is a large homphobia cryout and folks hide their sexuality due to avoiding castigation and punishment. The second is found in liberal areas where people do not care about anything and belive that they fully own their lives. The truth is we all need to balance the Spiritual and Sexual beign to have a complete and healthy beign. We are made up of various beings which are: Physical, Social, Spiritual, Spiritual, Emotional, Intellect and Sexual beign. We always want to balance all these in our lives so as to have stability and progress. One is not more important than the other and one lacking is not a complete person.                      

Amazing grace Gay

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQg3XqoyV3Q&feature=player_embedded

This shows that we are all special. Love also involves spiritual connection. We should stirve ti reconcile our spiritual self to have a complete being.

Facebook Pickup

Why is it not legal to hit some mofos with the most horrible degrading pick up lines. Sometimes folks on FB say the most stupid thing in the name of trying to hook up. Guys if you see someone on FB that you find attractive, also have an educative positive conversation to sell yourself. Talks about sex, sexual role or relationship status are a no no. Sending a random message saying you like the person or stuff like that is totally wrong. Before i forget distance should be considered if the person lives far from you and meeting is next to nil then don't be all i love you talk. Seeking true friendship is much more productive than sex or physical attraction. Also i do not want to know your dick size or your ass safe it for someone else.

A poem about nothing

A poem about nothing

I want nothing else than to be with you,
And nothing else but you will ever do.
Nothing they say will make this change,
‘Cause there's nothing if we ever turn that page.
My friends think our love is nothing,
But nothing's what I hear when they're talking.
I tell them, nothing's ever gonna come between you and I,
‘Cause nothing's really ever gonna reach that high.
They say I always talk about you, but that’s only nothing,
‘Cause nothing stops every second's thought from being about
you,
And nothing even feels remotely better than you do.
I'm smiling even when nothings funny,
But when they ask, I simply say there's nothing.
The money means nothing,
It’s simply your love or nothing,
‘Cause nothing else makes any sense,
And nothing will ever make these words past tense.
See, I've got words, but I realize they're nothing,
When I'm trying to find the right ones but nothing even comes
close.
I've got nothing without you,
But with you, nothing will ever do.

I wish Upon a star

I wish upon a star.
That a day shall come when i walk hand in hand
Down the aisle covered in red rose petals.
In an open summer field of bright sun.
Looking forward to kneeling at the altar.
O how i envision the smiles and the joy all around me.
The presence of friends and family
Well wishers and co-workers
The day i shall look into the eyes of that who i call soul mate
The day when two becomes one
The day two families unite with a lifelong bond.
I know it's just a wish for now.
The reality is i work down the dirty road
Covered in verbal and physical abuse
In a grey rainy field
Being pushed further and further away from the altar
We both run from those who hate our love.
Our families yes are united to our division
But if anything i hold on to this love which we share
This love that lights the dark room we are locked in
This love that feeds me in this period of starvation.
I push forward each day with this love on my mind
The truth is that which i wish for,
Is done each time i lay in your arms and look in your eyes
Is done when i hear you speak
Your love is the summer in this rain.
The star upon which i wished is you.

I dedicate this piece to all those going through issues with family.

The African Coming Out Effect

There has been a lot of topics about sexuality and family. I know the strength and power family plays in the African culture, it is one that brings us to a cross road when it comes to our sexuality. The main concern about being open is not about us but how would our family be treated. This is common irrespective of where in the world they are, they still carry the same values. They are more concerned about what would people say about then than how you would be accepted within the family. There are things to consider when these issues come up:
1. It is important to know that as it took you time to accept who you are, so would it take time for them to accept the fact about who you are.
2. Family would eventually come around and accept you but rarely would they accept you fully. Some would let you know that they love you but do not fully accept your way of life.
3. There would be the spiritual phase, this would happen immediately when they would seek spiritual help to "cleanse" you. This stage depends strongly on your age and your family. 
4. This is particular to young folks they might see it as a "phase" that you might fade out from. This is where i try and talk to people, because it is very sensitive it causes a lot of confusion in one minds and if care is not taking might lead to one being homophobic while being homosexual.
5. The adults in this period would have the "opposite sex" pressure. Now what i mean is when the family believes that if she/he gets married and has sex with the opposite sex the situation would stop. In some cases they bring about forced marriage.
6. They might tell you to leave the house and do not return and thinking you would be repentive and come and apologize saying you are now straight.
(to be continued)

PS: No matter what you go through push hard and be determined to be successful in what you do.