I wish Upon a star

I wish upon a star.
That a day shall come when i walk hand in hand
Down the aisle covered in red rose petals.
In an open summer field of bright sun.
Looking forward to kneeling at the altar.
O how i envision the smiles and the joy all around me.
The presence of friends and family
Well wishers and co-workers
The day i shall look into the eyes of that who i call soul mate
The day when two becomes one
The day two families unite with a lifelong bond.
I know it's just a wish for now.
The reality is i work down the dirty road
Covered in verbal and physical abuse
In a grey rainy field
Being pushed further and further away from the altar
We both run from those who hate our love.
Our families yes are united to our division
But if anything i hold on to this love which we share
This love that lights the dark room we are locked in
This love that feeds me in this period of starvation.
I push forward each day with this love on my mind
The truth is that which i wish for,
Is done each time i lay in your arms and look in your eyes
Is done when i hear you speak
Your love is the summer in this rain.
The star upon which i wished is you.

I dedicate this piece to all those going through issues with family.

The African Coming Out Effect

There has been a lot of topics about sexuality and family. I know the strength and power family plays in the African culture, it is one that brings us to a cross road when it comes to our sexuality. The main concern about being open is not about us but how would our family be treated. This is common irrespective of where in the world they are, they still carry the same values. They are more concerned about what would people say about then than how you would be accepted within the family. There are things to consider when these issues come up:
1. It is important to know that as it took you time to accept who you are, so would it take time for them to accept the fact about who you are.
2. Family would eventually come around and accept you but rarely would they accept you fully. Some would let you know that they love you but do not fully accept your way of life.
3. There would be the spiritual phase, this would happen immediately when they would seek spiritual help to "cleanse" you. This stage depends strongly on your age and your family. 
4. This is particular to young folks they might see it as a "phase" that you might fade out from. This is where i try and talk to people, because it is very sensitive it causes a lot of confusion in one minds and if care is not taking might lead to one being homophobic while being homosexual.
5. The adults in this period would have the "opposite sex" pressure. Now what i mean is when the family believes that if she/he gets married and has sex with the opposite sex the situation would stop. In some cases they bring about forced marriage.
6. They might tell you to leave the house and do not return and thinking you would be repentive and come and apologize saying you are now straight.
(to be continued)

PS: No matter what you go through push hard and be determined to be successful in what you do.

I am not a label

I am not a label

I am not a classification

I have been classified all my life

My tribe

My nationality

My accent

My race

Classified classified classified

I have lost my personality to these classifications

I am now classified based on my sexuality

I wonder would I ever be known for my personality

I am meant to fit a certain stereotype

Walk this way

Sit this way

Talk this way

Be this way be that way

I scream let me out of this classification I ask

I came to my own and then I am further classified

Top!!!

Bottom!!!

Versatile!!!

Effeminate!!!

Masculine!!!

I am not any of the above

They say you are act like a woman

I say I have a dick so I am a man

They say I am unnatural

I say I am a human with no abnormal body parts

I am me not a label

WHO ARE YOU?????

I am MEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! !!! !!! !!! !!! !!! !!!

  I hope we all look beyond classification and labels. Being who we are is enough classification, do not cause further damage.

Much Love Red Winers

I am

 I so disagree with you. My sexual orientation is not a practice or a choice. I am doing nothing wrong. I have lost so much because i refuse to be what society says i should be. I am happy i am where i am right now. I am gay proud and out. I am very active in the gay community where i live. Now are you judging based on religion or morality? If homosexual is wrong then is it the religious organizations along the Lagos Ibadan expressway that are more concerned with quantity of members instead of making the road more passable and improve quality. Is it the so called Don and Doyen in the industries that steal money and make donations while the religious organizations make them leaders and all. I witnessed how the church made my Dad a leader and elder and all that based on money, because he was far from a "Christian". I ask again on what grounds do you make your statement. If it is based on your religion then bro speak for yourself. There are over a million religion in this world. We all have different belief system so please speak for yourselves.

There are so many wrong going on in our society that Homosexual is the least. If my child is gay then we live with it. I have told my family that a Sister (daughter)in-law is so out of the question. Live your life for yourself bro because nobody would do it for you. I have run the race i am fighting the good fight. all i can tell you is that it gets better. I have overcome the "i hate myself" stage. The real choice is whether you compromise your happiness for pleasing society. When i told my dad's elder sister all she said was as long as i do what i want to do and i am happy. Then fuck what people say. If you marry would society come to your house to help out. Would society be the one to pay the bills. Would society give happiness.

I am a gay Nigerian and got no shame in my life. I am independent pay my bills and strong willed. I am a man, a brother, a son , a grand son, a friend, a co worker. My sexuality does not change me. I am me a man of life and prosperity. A man not conformed by the ideology of others but by finding the truth in his search for joy. Have a good one.

 I am an ordained pastor for nearly 10 years. The word of God is so strong and it shall do that it was sent to do. I want you to know that God loves you for who you are. He knew you right from your mother's womb. He knows the end for the beginning. It is a sad thing that Nigeria is a society based on religious folks and not spiritual folks. God loves you for who you are. The sin is when you lie everyday for who you are. The sin is going to church pretending to be who you are not in worship. The bible says John 4:24 (New International Version)
24 God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.” If you act heterosexual and marry but deep inside you still have the true you then it's a sin. I watched my family hurt by cheating and it is not a good thing. I wish i could talk to you one on one and not via message. It get's better bro belief me. I decided to be the real me from Nigeria before i came here. I had to stop going to church so that i can discover who i am. Brother life is beautiful life is awesome as a gay person. You should not live by your sexuality but by your personality. You are a brother, a friend, a cousin, a son, a grand child, a classmate a co-worker and an Image if God.

 I so disagree with you. My sexual orientation is not a practice or a choice. I am doing nothing wrong. I have lost so much because i refuse to be what society says i should be. I am happy i am where i am right now. I am gay proud and out. I am very active in the gay community where i live. Now are you judging based on religion or morality? If homosexual is wrong then is it the religious organizations along the Lagos Ibadan expressway that are more concerned with quantity of members instead of making the road more passable and improve quality. Is it the so called Don and Doyen in the industries that steal money and make donations while the religious organizations make them leaders and all. I witnessed how the church made my Dad a leader and elder and all that based on money, because he was far from a "Christian". I ask again on what grounds do you make your statement. If it is based on your religion then bro speak for yourself. There are over a million religion in this world. We all have different belief system so please speak for yourselves.

There are so many wrong going on in our society that Homosexual is the least. If my child is gay then we live with it. I have told my family that a Sister (daughter)in-law is so out of the question. Live your life for yourself bro because nobody would do it for you. I have run the race i am fighting the good fight. all i can tell you is that it gets better. I have overcome the "i hate myself" stage. The real choice is whether you compromise your happiness for pleasing society. When i told my dad's elder sister all she said was as long as i do what i want to do and i am happy. Then fuck what people say. If you marry would society come to your house to help out. Would society be the one to pay the bills. Would society give happiness.

I am a gay Nigerian and got no shame in my life. I am independent pay my bills and strong willed. I am a man, a brother, a son , a grand son, a friend, a co worker. My sexuality does not change me. I am me a man of life and prosperity. A man not conformed by the ideology of others but by finding the truth in his search for joy. Have a good one.

 I am an ordained pastor for nearly 10 years. The word of God is so strong and it shall do that it was sent to do. I want you to know that God loves you for who you are. He knew you right from your mother's womb. He knows the end for the beginning. It is a sad thing that Nigeria is a society based on religious folks and not spiritual folks. God loves you for who you are. The sin is when you lie everyday for who you are. The sin is going to church pretending to be who you are not in worship. The bible says John 4:24 (New International Version)
24 God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.” If you act heterosexual and marry but deep inside you still have the true you then it's a sin. I watched my family hurt by cheating and it is not a good thing. I wish i could talk to you one on one and not via message. It get's better bro belief me. I decided to be the real me from Nigeria before i came here. I had to stop going to church so that i can discover who i am. Brother life is beautiful life is awesome as a gay person. You should not live by your sexuality but by your personality. You are a brother, a friend, a cousin, a son, a grand child, a classmate a co-worker and an Image if God.

THE BALLARD GOODBYE

THE BALLARD GOODBYE

I have held on too long to you

I have cried too many tears for you

I have hurt too much for you

I realize the end is now

It Hurts to say good bye

I remember the first time I saw you

Your smile was melting

Your eyes were mesmerizing

Your voice weakened my knees.

Then the journey started

We had dreams

We had passion

We had love

Then came the bumps along the journey

I stood by you

I bore the hurt

I cried the tears

I held on

Then the smooth road came

You moved on

You changed suddenly

I have come to the awakening that this is just an illusion relationship

I have come to the realization that real love means to let go

I have come to the truth that it ended as soon as it began

My love

My Boo

My man

I say goodbye to you today

I cry tears of a heartbreak

I sleep a sleep of loneliness

This is just for a while

I shall rise

The lessons you taught me stays with me

The love you showed me I share to all

The positive vibe you gave me I carry on

The negative vibe you gave me I leave it behind

I sing a Ballard of goodbye

Good bye My love

                                                                   The Ballard Goodbye

ore about it later. I have realized that illusion sucks and is deceptive. Now I am back stronger and wiser. I have so much to share.

So I have been gone a very long time a lot has happened. In September some people outed me to my parents and I was banned from the house. I would write m