Monday, September 27, 2010

Dear Amara

I came across an article by a Nigerian journalist on Homosexual Nigerian men and women. I had no other option but to reply her. I am always in a laughing fit each time i read an article on such issues by Africans and the replies cracks me up. well read and enjoy the response.
 Here are the links to the article
http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2010/08/06/men-and-homosexuality/
http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2010/08/10/women-and-lesbianism/
Hi Amara
 I have never read your article but came across it today. I am not surprised by your "article". I would recommend you go back to writing school. It lacked an intro body and a conclusion. it was more like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle no head no tail. That being aside i would like to ask for those whose religion is not your Christian religion do you respect their opinion.
Now let's talk about the issue on same gender relationship. I am a proud gay Nigerian man open about my sexuality and confident in who i am.  This did not come easy for me, to be honest. I have had to deal with people like you all my life. People who are quick to judge and ready to condemn without taking time out to understand, I can boldly tell you that i never choose to be gay okay. I have tried everything from prayer, fasting deliverance and all that and still no change. I have been to all the major churches in Nigeria seen all the pastors and prophets still no change. I hated myself and lived in denial, i hurt myself and attempted suicide and still i am gay. I am a Christian and love god so much that i preach His gospel. The gospel of God is not of hate but of love. It is a gospel filled with joy and peace and not fear and anger. The issue of Sodom and Gomorrah was never homosexuality i would like to see the word in your bible OK. I preach to people and they get saved. I lay hand on the sick and they get ill. I was surprised when u said that Christians do this to get "juju" for miracles. I doubt you are educated from that statement or you bribed your way through college.
A quick question on culture and what is African and UnAfrican. Is Christianity or Islam African? These same western people that you condemn fr Homosexual rise in the world are the ones that brought their religion and imposed it on us. They brought technology, clothes and all that you are wearing and using now as well. You want o dine eating their food drinking their drinks driving their car, yet you say we copy everything they have. I would be damned to see you got out all things westernized in your life and go back to the era before the westerners came to Nigeria. In doing so you would realize that same sex relationship is so African and part of our history and heritage.
I would not be surprised if you have a homosexual child, i wonder if you would kill him/her or love the child.
Homosexual are normal, it is only a perverted mind that would look at the sexual aspect which i guess you are since all you see is sex. There is the emotional attraction involved. I tried dating women but i was not being honest in my relationship to them. I was always looking for that extra something i could not get from them.
 i have never used my sexuality for any monetary or given anyone monetary compensation OK I knew i was sexually attracted to the same sex right from when i was young. I was not scared abused or molested. My father was not absent in my life or anything like that OK I have brothers and sisters who are heterosexual. My happiness is more important to me than trying to live a make believe world. I am glad my family is not expecting any daughter-in-law from me, because ain't none coming to them but a son-in-law.
 Talking about how women hit on you and you run away then i am sure you open up your legs when men hit on you and warm their beds right. in fact this is a waste of time replying your biased article. Go seek knowledge.

Saturday, September 25, 2010

Eddie Long

The crime is really not in the sexual activity, but in the condemnation of an act that he fully knows is not a chioce. There is no crime if he came out and said this is what he does, there would be more support. The crime is the preaching o...f hate and condemnation , using his power of authority to promote a propaganda that creates generations and generations of ignorant haters. This would be a test to the church community at large let's see how they would react. I can bet all this conservative churches would begin to talk trash.I for one i would gladly accept him as a pastor and would respect him for that. I pray he keeps his calling and agrees to his sexuality, i would be willing to become his church memeber then. Man is flesh Christians should realize that.
 
 
 

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Biased

Sexuality is really complicated...it is funny how it is ok for "str8" people to admire each other and be explicit about sex, but being gay is wrong. It is funny how parents would  rather let their children be sexually active at a young age and guy can have multiple sex partners but being gay is wrong. It is shocking that teenage pregnancy is accepted but being gay is wrong. What you think?

Friday, September 17, 2010

We had dreams and ambition but now it seems like the winters past.

I was talking to a friend and he complained about his partner for three years. I have heard this worries among alot of friends irregardless of sexuality when it comes to relationship even marriage. My female friend complained how her fiance was talking to his baby mama at her back and she kicked him out. There are instances when our hearts are troubled in trust for the one we want to be with. The fear of trust is one that we all have to bear and pray we have the strength to hold on to. I dedicate this poem to all the those who have the fear of trust in them.

I need to know
I need to know do you think about me the way I do about you?
I need to know why you tricked my heart into believing when it is just a facade?
I need to know if you know how much I wanna care and love you?
I need to know why I can't seem to ignore you and act like you don't exist?
I need to know why the sudden change towards me?
I need to know if there is someone else?
I need to know where I stand in your life?
I need to know if you would ever give me a chance to be your lover?
I need to know if you take me for a fool?
I need to know whether I would ever see you again?
I need to know if you yearn to see me the way I yearn to see you?
I need to know the truth and nothing but the truth?
Not knowing the truth hurts me so much.


I pray that you all find peace like i do when it comes to dating. We should all try to put the past in the past.

Love you all


Stallion


The look in your eyes when we had our first love kiss was nothing but memorable.
I yearn for that once more. To lay with you till the break of dawn.
I want to feel the intense of our sex craving for each others body.
The touch of your fingers all over my body
The soft tender lips of yours on my mouth
To feel the Stallion rise from a flat soft mound to the strong hard rock
The veins on the Stallion visible and glistening in ebony glory
The feel of the Stallion in my mouth
I remember the moaning of pleasure as I worshiped the Stallion
The oral liquid bathing the Stallion in worship
Oh Master I could still feel you stroking my hair as I washed your Stallion
Oh what a beautiful moment of ecstasy
When the juice of the Stallion gushed out
It erupted like a volcano
The earth trembled like an earthquake
I felt happy to give pleasure to the Stallion.
Oh how I yearn for such again my Stallion.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Carrying Over Hurt

It hurts when people bring the negativity of their past relationship into their present and hurting the other person. They have all this negative events that caused their past break up and bring it into the present is a way of pushing the new person away. I have noticed that “ I have been there and do not want to get hurt again” is a popular line when it comes to dating. I personally always let the past be the past I let go of it all and concentrate on the present. I would not bring any negative issue from previous relationships into the present. I believe in giving everyone a chance to get to know me. I wonder if it's why I am friends with all my ex. I just want to encourage all those who carry these ideas that time is a healer give the new person a chance to truly love you and be honest to you. I always feel hurt when I date people who have an issue letting go, but I have learned from standing by them that patience is a very strong virtue. I would wait patiently with you while you heal from your hurt. I would accept the mood swings and changes and allow you to pursue your dream. All is ask for is to be given the opportunity to love you and show it.